Monday, 16 April 2012
Me VS supermom and the world!
Okay so here i am baking cupcakes at 01:14 in the morning, decorating, baking making it look all pretty, all 90 of them!! school bake sale, entrepeneurs day you might ask? ( because if you are a mom then these are perfect excuses right?) WELL i am baking them for no apparent reason, giving them to the church kids, packing extra-ordinary lunches for tommorow, ironing the clothes for work,school,karate and then clothes for after karate, prepping for tommorow's breakfast, signing of homework books, checking homework etc...if youre a mom...then you'll get where i am coming from right..because i am trying my butt of to be supermom , over compensating and feeling extra bad when my sense of humour or patience runs dry!
in one second i can go from angelic temptress and lover to a black widow, a sugary sweet mommy to a dracula ready to ...well you get what i mean! so why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect?And most of all why is it socially unacceptable to admit that you're not? and what exactly is perfect and to who's standards?
Well as you very well know..i love writing about my life's experiences so here goes..the day i found out i was supermom...!
We all have these competative thorns in our sides..the dreaded perfect mom at school...she's perfect at baking, needlework, art projects for school, and just about everything else, she is one of the class representatives at school, she helps on sport days and any other event happening, she has the perfect husband, perfect daughter and perfect little boy..they have perfect family holidays and off course all of this while she still holds down a perfect full time job!!!
So here i was this one monday morning dropping of my Dash Light year at school and here walks mrs perfect, for all records let's call her Villan X, ( i like the ring to that VILLAN X lol)!
You know when someone just knows how to push them buttons...
It all started the monday morning..for some reason i just did not hear the alarm, and disaster managemnet 1 for the week struck!
It's 07:00 i have a child with adhd and suddenly getting it all done in 30 minutes looks like... well....you know!
So here follows a brief description of how the week went!
Monday over slept, fell when i came in the kitchen, (think i will need a hip replacement, but i'll live)got up in record speed and stuuupid looked if someone saw me...wth?
almost grabbed the cupboard door off it's hinges while getting the cereal box ( as if this is going to spare me some time?)
Chuck in milk go down the passage make a u turn forgot the honey, add honey start powerwalk down the passage, sigh of relief, D is awake...just spared 3 minutes!!!
Lady time is on my side this morning because he is starving and races through his cereal....
aaaah start dressing him, he gets irritated by this gesture and demands on doing it himself...stop arguing and start delegating!!
School starts at 07:45 it is now 07:40 thank heavens we live so close and he dashes into the gates like dash from the incredibles and makes it in a nick of time!!!phew!!!No detention slip today YEAH!
Tuesday...
This is really begining to pull at my patience because once again i did not hear the alarm!!!!!!!!
Same Routine as yesterday with a little more drama off course but, once again my little booba dashes through the school gates this time like Mr Buzz light year himself!!!
Much to Villan X's Ammusement, and just there it feels like someone just threw me with an ice cold bucket of in your face!!!i have no make-up on, my green pick'npay slippers boots ( wich by the way is much warmer than those nine west..uhm i mean nine inch heels!) (and i can run faster!) standing out like a neon sign under my track pants and jersey!! and yes you guessed it, she looks as if she just stepped out of a magazine...who looks like that this time of the am?
THAT IS IT!!! I will wake up on time tommrow..make b/fast,have clothes ready...I am going to be SUPERMOM!!!!!
wednesday..
04:30 how the hec did i hear the alarm this morning? but i get up , make breakfast, bacon, toast,eggs,danish,juice,coffee,tea the works!
Wake up my little superdude, get him into a tracksuit and those takkies and we are goign for a walk!!
he's excited, we enjoy the walk, but i need my fix..i'll do anything for the fix..you know what i am talking about, we all need one,wheter it's decaf or caff we can't survive without it..and i need a hardcore shot of espresso (or 2), so we make the walk a bit fatser so that we can get home, go through the morning perfect, drop little superdude off at school, even before VILLAN X and her little Pozzie arrives at school!
Thursday Repeated as Wednesday!
And friday meets me with a smile......not really.. but i grab the rest of my body out of bed, and drag myself to the kitchen..feels like a train or 6 of them chanllenged me and i lost!
but here we go same as wednesday and thursday...
Now you can just imagine this laid back, chilled out family, who does weird things, who's always late, and seemingly always relaxed but also a bit crazy ...one day i might reveal my identity and treat you with a clip of saturday night fun....i am sure i will cause somone somewhere much laughter for many years to come!! but anyways i am drifting off again..the point is we should actually be living next to the coast cause we are just chill like that!
The weekend came..and so did the 100's of biscuits etc. i baked, my superdude felt like a decorated bicuit by the end of the weekend.and i could tell that this perfect little family of mine is on the edge...and then Sunday evening the bomb bursts!!!!!
My alarm clock is gone.....i can't find superdude's lunchbox, i forgot to buy yoghurt and the coffee is finished... and then my hubby (as if this is normal) ag but you can just quickly pop in at the shop tommorow like you always do when you forget something......
WHAT???
and then, superdude says very cautiously...and mommy can i sleep a little later tommorow, because i am reallly tired...and hubby says and can i please just have cereal in the morning because all this eating is making me feel ill, and superdude just have to slip in there with a " i think it's better for mommy too, because your hip needs to rest( HE SAW ME) humiliation just swallowed me in...supermom without wings! HA so jumping up and looking if anyone saw me isn't as dumb as i thought!!
Ungratefull suckers!
No we just like you the way you are, yes mommy i have the coolest mom in the world, and now you you are like a crazy robot Mom!
Aww really? My husbands reply" Yes babe, i love you the way you are, unorganised but always getting it done, we like how you roll" and superdude says " YES You are my Supermom!!"
SUPERMOM...ME...SUPERMOM? i am tearing up here.....
Now there you have it! Nothing was wrong but i tried to fix it! Every Family has it's own way of making things work..sometimes it goes smooth and sometimes...well sometimes you almost break a hip because of an alarm clock malfunction... but All families has hiccups wheter you do it woman alone or Like Villan X with 2 nanny's and a butler's helping you out with the morning routines..but don't change the way you manage your household...because your man married you and is inlove with you because you and your ways are what he fell in love with,( Men are not nearly as stupid as we think...when they are younger they hang with all the little floozies,party with the partychicks, go after the skinny,sexy,model types Drink till they pass out but as they mature,( and i have to warn you a few of them never matures!) But those who do, they start to look at THEIR WIVES and the woman they choose are ladies with different standards and suddenly the wife material they are looking for gets chosen with different criteria's, someone they can love forever, who can bare their children, who can manage their households,who can plan the family vacations that they work so hard to provide, rolemodels that their kids can look up to and a woman that's gonna have his back as much as he will have hers! and that's how we became the good wife's and mom's that we are) we were chosen of the A list! And your kids , your adoarable, sometimes driving mom up the walls -kids, just adore you no matter how crazy you are, how angry you get, how much or how little you give, how imperfect or perfect you are! We are their SUPERMOMS and SUPERWIVES even if we sometime's feel the need to compare ourselves to other's who seemingly has such a perfect Life, sometimes.just sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side...
So don't ever second guess yourself You are a super in your own right and those who matter don't care and those who cares don't matter!
xxx
in one second i can go from angelic temptress and lover to a black widow, a sugary sweet mommy to a dracula ready to ...well you get what i mean! so why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect?And most of all why is it socially unacceptable to admit that you're not? and what exactly is perfect and to who's standards?
Well as you very well know..i love writing about my life's experiences so here goes..the day i found out i was supermom...!
We all have these competative thorns in our sides..the dreaded perfect mom at school...she's perfect at baking, needlework, art projects for school, and just about everything else, she is one of the class representatives at school, she helps on sport days and any other event happening, she has the perfect husband, perfect daughter and perfect little boy..they have perfect family holidays and off course all of this while she still holds down a perfect full time job!!!
So here i was this one monday morning dropping of my Dash Light year at school and here walks mrs perfect, for all records let's call her Villan X, ( i like the ring to that VILLAN X lol)!
You know when someone just knows how to push them buttons...
It all started the monday morning..for some reason i just did not hear the alarm, and disaster managemnet 1 for the week struck!
It's 07:00 i have a child with adhd and suddenly getting it all done in 30 minutes looks like... well....you know!
So here follows a brief description of how the week went!
Monday over slept, fell when i came in the kitchen, (think i will need a hip replacement, but i'll live)got up in record speed and stuuupid looked if someone saw me...wth?
almost grabbed the cupboard door off it's hinges while getting the cereal box ( as if this is going to spare me some time?)
Chuck in milk go down the passage make a u turn forgot the honey, add honey start powerwalk down the passage, sigh of relief, D is awake...just spared 3 minutes!!!
Lady time is on my side this morning because he is starving and races through his cereal....
aaaah start dressing him, he gets irritated by this gesture and demands on doing it himself...stop arguing and start delegating!!
School starts at 07:45 it is now 07:40 thank heavens we live so close and he dashes into the gates like dash from the incredibles and makes it in a nick of time!!!phew!!!No detention slip today YEAH!
Tuesday...
This is really begining to pull at my patience because once again i did not hear the alarm!!!!!!!!
Same Routine as yesterday with a little more drama off course but, once again my little booba dashes through the school gates this time like Mr Buzz light year himself!!!
Much to Villan X's Ammusement, and just there it feels like someone just threw me with an ice cold bucket of in your face!!!i have no make-up on, my green pick'npay slippers boots ( wich by the way is much warmer than those nine west..uhm i mean nine inch heels!) (and i can run faster!) standing out like a neon sign under my track pants and jersey!! and yes you guessed it, she looks as if she just stepped out of a magazine...who looks like that this time of the am?
THAT IS IT!!! I will wake up on time tommrow..make b/fast,have clothes ready...I am going to be SUPERMOM!!!!!
wednesday..
04:30 how the hec did i hear the alarm this morning? but i get up , make breakfast, bacon, toast,eggs,danish,juice,coffee,tea the works!
Wake up my little superdude, get him into a tracksuit and those takkies and we are goign for a walk!!
he's excited, we enjoy the walk, but i need my fix..i'll do anything for the fix..you know what i am talking about, we all need one,wheter it's decaf or caff we can't survive without it..and i need a hardcore shot of espresso (or 2), so we make the walk a bit fatser so that we can get home, go through the morning perfect, drop little superdude off at school, even before VILLAN X and her little Pozzie arrives at school!
Thursday Repeated as Wednesday!
And friday meets me with a smile......not really.. but i grab the rest of my body out of bed, and drag myself to the kitchen..feels like a train or 6 of them chanllenged me and i lost!
but here we go same as wednesday and thursday...
Now you can just imagine this laid back, chilled out family, who does weird things, who's always late, and seemingly always relaxed but also a bit crazy ...one day i might reveal my identity and treat you with a clip of saturday night fun....i am sure i will cause somone somewhere much laughter for many years to come!! but anyways i am drifting off again..the point is we should actually be living next to the coast cause we are just chill like that!
The weekend came..and so did the 100's of biscuits etc. i baked, my superdude felt like a decorated bicuit by the end of the weekend.and i could tell that this perfect little family of mine is on the edge...and then Sunday evening the bomb bursts!!!!!
My alarm clock is gone.....i can't find superdude's lunchbox, i forgot to buy yoghurt and the coffee is finished... and then my hubby (as if this is normal) ag but you can just quickly pop in at the shop tommorow like you always do when you forget something......
WHAT???
and then, superdude says very cautiously...and mommy can i sleep a little later tommorow, because i am reallly tired...and hubby says and can i please just have cereal in the morning because all this eating is making me feel ill, and superdude just have to slip in there with a " i think it's better for mommy too, because your hip needs to rest( HE SAW ME) humiliation just swallowed me in...supermom without wings! HA so jumping up and looking if anyone saw me isn't as dumb as i thought!!
Ungratefull suckers!
No we just like you the way you are, yes mommy i have the coolest mom in the world, and now you you are like a crazy robot Mom!
Aww really? My husbands reply" Yes babe, i love you the way you are, unorganised but always getting it done, we like how you roll" and superdude says " YES You are my Supermom!!"
SUPERMOM...ME...SUPERMOM? i am tearing up here.....
Now there you have it! Nothing was wrong but i tried to fix it! Every Family has it's own way of making things work..sometimes it goes smooth and sometimes...well sometimes you almost break a hip because of an alarm clock malfunction... but All families has hiccups wheter you do it woman alone or Like Villan X with 2 nanny's and a butler's helping you out with the morning routines..but don't change the way you manage your household...because your man married you and is inlove with you because you and your ways are what he fell in love with,( Men are not nearly as stupid as we think...when they are younger they hang with all the little floozies,party with the partychicks, go after the skinny,sexy,model types Drink till they pass out but as they mature,( and i have to warn you a few of them never matures!) But those who do, they start to look at THEIR WIVES and the woman they choose are ladies with different standards and suddenly the wife material they are looking for gets chosen with different criteria's, someone they can love forever, who can bare their children, who can manage their households,who can plan the family vacations that they work so hard to provide, rolemodels that their kids can look up to and a woman that's gonna have his back as much as he will have hers! and that's how we became the good wife's and mom's that we are) we were chosen of the A list! And your kids , your adoarable, sometimes driving mom up the walls -kids, just adore you no matter how crazy you are, how angry you get, how much or how little you give, how imperfect or perfect you are! We are their SUPERMOMS and SUPERWIVES even if we sometime's feel the need to compare ourselves to other's who seemingly has such a perfect Life, sometimes.just sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side...
So don't ever second guess yourself You are a super in your own right and those who matter don't care and those who cares don't matter!
xxx
Wednesday, 28 March 2012
THE CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC OF ADHD
Okay so here goes, today i will be brushing on the topic of ADHD, phew where do i start?
Let me start by taking you on the road that we have been walking for the past 3 years!
Our little boy was born on the 02 January 2004, i had a healthy pregnancy, and a healthy baby, at 2 month's he was sleeping right through the night and as a one year old he was giving us all the joy a baby could give it's new parents!
He has always been a busy little boy, always on the go, always a laugh a minute ( and still is)!
At 5 we sent him to his 1st year in grade R, we decided to send him a year early so that the first year could be more of an experience to get him ready for his actual Grade R year, he had fun, like a 5 year old does, but at our first teacher-parent meeting his teacher at the time told us that we need to put him on meds...shock shock horror horror! i was furious! we refused the meds and told them that all the "problems" thay have with our son like for example, not sitting still, always talking to much, being to busy in class etc. are not ADHD problems but normal 5year old behaviour..i told the teacher that if in his second year we encounter issues, that we would handle it then.. and that was that!
His second year now age 6 was the same old issues, not sitting still, etc. We had our son tested and he was tested positive with a very high spectrum of ADHD..not the end of the world right? we did the diet route, the homeopathic route, all the alternative routes, because i was one of the first mothers to say i will never put my child on meds! but what do you do, when your child comes home everyday negative, unhappy, thinking that everyone hates him, when the teacher say's he is going to fail his grade? You tend to change your whole way of thinking hey?
So what do you do when nothing else seems to work? do you get sad and wonder why sally's child responds well to diet and home remdies and yours doesn't? NO you pull yourself towards yourself and you deal with the issue at hand, because that little bundle of joy you gave birth to now needs your serious attention!
we started with the ritalin, and school work improved...A whole lot as in day and night difference!..but he lost weight and that firy busy wacky child just dissapeared, and it killed us, so we took him off and tried a few other meds but also with the same effect on his personality the year came and went with teacher and mom not being able to really find a way to tollerate eachother but he passed all the way through to grade 1..We then went the Concerta way, and we are still on it and with possitive results. Grade 1 was a light breeze a few hicckups here and there but we went through it and ended it on a possitive note, he is now in Grade 2 and he is still doing good at school, but still with hicckups here and there between teacher and mom, but he will be getting through the year just fine, because he is a clever kid!
So why all the hiccups then? Well simply because there are tachers..and then the are teachers, you get teachers that are such sweethearts, who embraces their profession, who does it for the love and will just grow more and more patience over their years, and then you get teachers who somewhere aling the way forgot why they became teachers in the first place...i know of the latter, who has no patience, who is constantly giving detention marks, who likes to scream and shout in class, and when you send a book about how to deal with kids with adhd they simply aren't interested in reading it because " I know what ADHD is"....
So where does it leave this topic?
It is only the start of this topic lol!
i have now shared with you just briefly without going into too deeply our experience so far..
the point of this topic now shifts over to society and their views on meds and ADHD.
My personal experience with this is the following, you will be judged for your decision - That is a FACT and how you will be dealing with this will be up to you!
What most people do not understand about parents with ADHD children is that you resent yourself so much when you hear your child has this "dissease", your world falls appart and you start asking yourself what did you do wrong, you struggle because you need to make decisions for your child that will be judged badly by the rest of the world...out off a lack of understanding!
The world sees this healthy child, who acts impulsively,does without thinking, comes accross as being so unobedient, and they label your child as naughty and you as a bad parent,
So now you get 2 types of Public Judges:
The ag Shame Judges
"Ag shame did you see harry and sally with their boy? It must be so terrible for that family to live with the dissease that their child has...They will forever have problems at school and in their social circles with their son you know, Ag shame you know they don't even get invited to kid's parties anymore, because their child is so Hyper, i feel so sorry for them!"
A HA - and then you get the i can't believe it Judges!
The i can't believe it judges
" I can't believe they put their child on meds, you know it is such an easy way out, he just needs a good hiding, there is no such thing as ADHD, i can't believe that now a days if a child does not have manners he get's diagnosed with ADHD!
Now i have learned to live with both and if you are a mom with and ADHD child reading this, i will suggest you do the same or else you will drive yourself crazy with resentment!
It's very easy, your child is not mentally handicapped and ADHD is not a Disease!
your child is just different, he has a different way of seeing the world, and you as a parent need to embrace it and live it through your child's eyes and you will be amazed at what a tecnicoloured rainbow life you can be living!
Forget about what people are saying, because every second you think and resent yourself about what they are thinking you are losing a second of your life, a second you wont get back, a second that turns into minutes that turns into hours, hours that you could have rather spent baking biscuits, making mudpies or just chilling infront of the tv with your child, don't think long term that your child will be on meds for the rest of their lives, instead equip your child in his growing years with the tools he needs to cope, to remember the simple things, so that when he gets older it would be easier to possibly take him of meds, because he has then grown the tools he needs to be socialy acceptable!
our kids are not villans, we are not bad parents and the world can judge all they want, they can read a few articles on what adhd is and then think they know it all BUT until you do not have a child that goes through these things, keep your opinions to yourself.
Until you have not gone through the routines at home with an ADHD child, until you have not reminded your child to brush his teeth in the mornings, until you have not reminded your child to leave the bed and redirected him back to the bathroom to go brush his teeth like you asked 10minutes ago before he wandered off on the way to the bathroom to do something else again until this has not become yor way of living don't judge, because for each finger you point to others three fingers are pointing back.
If your child has asthma, and by giving your child an asthma pump, you can equip him with the ability to do sports, run around like a child, and have a good quality of life, do you want to tell me that you as a parent will deny your child this right?
Well the same could be said for parents who has children with ADHD!
I love my son, i am younger at heart than most 33 year olds, he keeps me on my toes, he keeps me creative, he keeps me grounded, he keeps me sane in an unsane world, he keeps me possitive in a negative society , he keeps my inner child alive, and without our inner child still alive how can we still truly be living life at all?
The point of this disscusion?
Med's or no Med's it remains the decision and right of the parent of this child and should not be open to condemnation,discussion or judgement of anyone else
This is just my opinion.
xxx
Let me start by taking you on the road that we have been walking for the past 3 years!
Our little boy was born on the 02 January 2004, i had a healthy pregnancy, and a healthy baby, at 2 month's he was sleeping right through the night and as a one year old he was giving us all the joy a baby could give it's new parents!
He has always been a busy little boy, always on the go, always a laugh a minute ( and still is)!
At 5 we sent him to his 1st year in grade R, we decided to send him a year early so that the first year could be more of an experience to get him ready for his actual Grade R year, he had fun, like a 5 year old does, but at our first teacher-parent meeting his teacher at the time told us that we need to put him on meds...shock shock horror horror! i was furious! we refused the meds and told them that all the "problems" thay have with our son like for example, not sitting still, always talking to much, being to busy in class etc. are not ADHD problems but normal 5year old behaviour..i told the teacher that if in his second year we encounter issues, that we would handle it then.. and that was that!
His second year now age 6 was the same old issues, not sitting still, etc. We had our son tested and he was tested positive with a very high spectrum of ADHD..not the end of the world right? we did the diet route, the homeopathic route, all the alternative routes, because i was one of the first mothers to say i will never put my child on meds! but what do you do, when your child comes home everyday negative, unhappy, thinking that everyone hates him, when the teacher say's he is going to fail his grade? You tend to change your whole way of thinking hey?
So what do you do when nothing else seems to work? do you get sad and wonder why sally's child responds well to diet and home remdies and yours doesn't? NO you pull yourself towards yourself and you deal with the issue at hand, because that little bundle of joy you gave birth to now needs your serious attention!
we started with the ritalin, and school work improved...A whole lot as in day and night difference!..but he lost weight and that firy busy wacky child just dissapeared, and it killed us, so we took him off and tried a few other meds but also with the same effect on his personality the year came and went with teacher and mom not being able to really find a way to tollerate eachother but he passed all the way through to grade 1..We then went the Concerta way, and we are still on it and with possitive results. Grade 1 was a light breeze a few hicckups here and there but we went through it and ended it on a possitive note, he is now in Grade 2 and he is still doing good at school, but still with hicckups here and there between teacher and mom, but he will be getting through the year just fine, because he is a clever kid!
So why all the hiccups then? Well simply because there are tachers..and then the are teachers, you get teachers that are such sweethearts, who embraces their profession, who does it for the love and will just grow more and more patience over their years, and then you get teachers who somewhere aling the way forgot why they became teachers in the first place...i know of the latter, who has no patience, who is constantly giving detention marks, who likes to scream and shout in class, and when you send a book about how to deal with kids with adhd they simply aren't interested in reading it because " I know what ADHD is"....
So where does it leave this topic?
It is only the start of this topic lol!
i have now shared with you just briefly without going into too deeply our experience so far..
the point of this topic now shifts over to society and their views on meds and ADHD.
My personal experience with this is the following, you will be judged for your decision - That is a FACT and how you will be dealing with this will be up to you!
What most people do not understand about parents with ADHD children is that you resent yourself so much when you hear your child has this "dissease", your world falls appart and you start asking yourself what did you do wrong, you struggle because you need to make decisions for your child that will be judged badly by the rest of the world...out off a lack of understanding!
The world sees this healthy child, who acts impulsively,does without thinking, comes accross as being so unobedient, and they label your child as naughty and you as a bad parent,
So now you get 2 types of Public Judges:
The ag Shame Judges
"Ag shame did you see harry and sally with their boy? It must be so terrible for that family to live with the dissease that their child has...They will forever have problems at school and in their social circles with their son you know, Ag shame you know they don't even get invited to kid's parties anymore, because their child is so Hyper, i feel so sorry for them!"
A HA - and then you get the i can't believe it Judges!
The i can't believe it judges
" I can't believe they put their child on meds, you know it is such an easy way out, he just needs a good hiding, there is no such thing as ADHD, i can't believe that now a days if a child does not have manners he get's diagnosed with ADHD!
Now i have learned to live with both and if you are a mom with and ADHD child reading this, i will suggest you do the same or else you will drive yourself crazy with resentment!
It's very easy, your child is not mentally handicapped and ADHD is not a Disease!
your child is just different, he has a different way of seeing the world, and you as a parent need to embrace it and live it through your child's eyes and you will be amazed at what a tecnicoloured rainbow life you can be living!
Forget about what people are saying, because every second you think and resent yourself about what they are thinking you are losing a second of your life, a second you wont get back, a second that turns into minutes that turns into hours, hours that you could have rather spent baking biscuits, making mudpies or just chilling infront of the tv with your child, don't think long term that your child will be on meds for the rest of their lives, instead equip your child in his growing years with the tools he needs to cope, to remember the simple things, so that when he gets older it would be easier to possibly take him of meds, because he has then grown the tools he needs to be socialy acceptable!
our kids are not villans, we are not bad parents and the world can judge all they want, they can read a few articles on what adhd is and then think they know it all BUT until you do not have a child that goes through these things, keep your opinions to yourself.
Until you have not gone through the routines at home with an ADHD child, until you have not reminded your child to brush his teeth in the mornings, until you have not reminded your child to leave the bed and redirected him back to the bathroom to go brush his teeth like you asked 10minutes ago before he wandered off on the way to the bathroom to do something else again until this has not become yor way of living don't judge, because for each finger you point to others three fingers are pointing back.
If your child has asthma, and by giving your child an asthma pump, you can equip him with the ability to do sports, run around like a child, and have a good quality of life, do you want to tell me that you as a parent will deny your child this right?
Well the same could be said for parents who has children with ADHD!
I love my son, i am younger at heart than most 33 year olds, he keeps me on my toes, he keeps me creative, he keeps me grounded, he keeps me sane in an unsane world, he keeps me possitive in a negative society , he keeps my inner child alive, and without our inner child still alive how can we still truly be living life at all?
The point of this disscusion?
Med's or no Med's it remains the decision and right of the parent of this child and should not be open to condemnation,discussion or judgement of anyone else
This is just my opinion.
xxx
AND SO IT BEGINS!
And so my secret blogging life begins, why secret you ask? Well Probably because i shy away from attention..normally if you look for me i won't be the one dancing on the tables and being at the centre of a heated debate (if you know what i mean). But secretly inside my deepest of deep i am a *Diva*, i looove girly things, i love baking, i love making things, i love making my friends and family happy, and most of all i adore being a wife and absolutely thrive on being a mom,BUT and don't get me wrong, there has to be more...i am quickly approaching 33 and as i sit and look back at my life i can't help feeling a little..well...underweight in the achievement department!
I also have besides all of the above , so many business ideas, Dreams, opinions, i want to debate on things that gets people red under the collar, i want to say what everyones thinking, i want to help people i don't know by sharing my life's experiences, i want to be famous(don't we all lol), i want to be random, unpredictable..and i want to learn how to be a writer, maybe write a book one day, but for some reason i have never been able to 1. Speak or voice my opinions in public, and by public i really do mean any group of 6 people or more. 2. I really do not have much selfconfidence, wich in turn i think emotionally probably cripples me a bit when i make decisions, and lastly 3. I don't like Surprises. Yip that's me Mrs. control!lol!
So with this blog i will try not to cater for one specific group of people, i hope to reach a wide spectrum of different people going through life, looking for a light read, for some humour, for some controversial opinions and to just see that life is..well what we make of it, wheter we do it by name or like me with a secretmask on!
Join me on my ventures, some will be boring, some will just be random, i will share my joy's, my tears, i will share my thoughts, frustrations,favourite recipes, ideas etc.
Join in, comment,share and who know's where this magical road might take us!!
xxx
I also have besides all of the above , so many business ideas, Dreams, opinions, i want to debate on things that gets people red under the collar, i want to say what everyones thinking, i want to help people i don't know by sharing my life's experiences, i want to be famous(don't we all lol), i want to be random, unpredictable..and i want to learn how to be a writer, maybe write a book one day, but for some reason i have never been able to 1. Speak or voice my opinions in public, and by public i really do mean any group of 6 people or more. 2. I really do not have much selfconfidence, wich in turn i think emotionally probably cripples me a bit when i make decisions, and lastly 3. I don't like Surprises. Yip that's me Mrs. control!lol!
So with this blog i will try not to cater for one specific group of people, i hope to reach a wide spectrum of different people going through life, looking for a light read, for some humour, for some controversial opinions and to just see that life is..well what we make of it, wheter we do it by name or like me with a secretmask on!
Join me on my ventures, some will be boring, some will just be random, i will share my joy's, my tears, i will share my thoughts, frustrations,favourite recipes, ideas etc.
Join in, comment,share and who know's where this magical road might take us!!
xxx
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